#066 Stopping In Real Time
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On Saturday, Mackenzie and I hosted a gathering to celebrate our engagement. I was prompted by friends to give a speech, but that prompt came a few glasses of wine too late. So I’ll just say it here:
You realize how lucky you are when you look around a room and know for certain that everyone, at some point in time, has made your life beautiful.
The feeling is much bigger than a story can do justice for. Half-drunk, a warm hug, a step outside for a cigarette. A heart to heart or a quick catch up. The art of introducing your friend to somebody you’re done talking to so you can slip out of the conversation. Moments of silence and patience. An inside joke. A new joke. An old friend. A quick run for more wine.
I’ve learned to force myself to stop in real time and acknowledge that I just had a really good moment.
A few ideas
I. THE PAY OFF
Working through something for an hour per day over the course of the week is more total time spent than sitting down for 6 hours at one time.
More time means more chances to get it right, and it’s likely that you can spare an hour today versus 6.
Consistency pays greater than betting on a miracle.
II. THE LAST PART
There’s little to say about a chef who’s never served food, a filmmaker with no films to watch, an athlete that nobody has seen play, or an author with no books to read.
The last part, just as important as all the steps before it, is putting it out there.
III. ONE QUESTION
One question that is important to consider when trying to move onto the next thing quickly: Are you saving time or wasting it?
A quote from somebody else
"Society wants you to stay in your lane. When we’re unsure if we’re ‘allowed’ to do something, we seek permission from others before we even try. We wait for the world to tell us it’s okay. I can tell you from experience that you’ll probably never get that permission.”
Links worth sharing
✍🏽 Toni Morrison Talks About Her Motivation For Writing
🧘♀️ How to Meditate Outdoors With Us Right Now is an interactive guided meditation by The New York Times, featuring a series of relaxing sounds, images and texts to help your body release stress and recenter.
🍽 The Great Food Instagram Vibe Shift details the changes in how we capture and share food imagery on Instagram. The article notes the shift towards lo-fi, less perfect and a low-effort approach to curating images on the platform.
🧠 "These things I know for sure" by Andrea Zittel
🍲 Poetry Soup is an interactive site where users can compile a set of images inspired by a poem they’ve read. The aim is to create your own visual interpreations based on the poem’s essence.
👥 The beginning of the end of influencers?
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Aw, this is beautiful - congratulations to you both 🥂